

Have you ever been turned down for sex? Yes, I have. There was a friend I saw on occasion when I visited my hometown. We kept in constant contact at the time—still do, but not as often. On one particular visit, we went out for drinks and had our usual great conversation. At the end of the night when that awkward pause takes place, trying to determine if we part or go home together. I confidently went to kiss him knowing what I wanted to do, he pulled back and said no. The only way he would have sex was if I would be his completely. I knew that wasn’t what I wanted and left feeling somewhat surprised and rejected. Despite the notion that I can have any guy I want, I know that’s not always the case. I think being humbled is a good thing, even if it crushes your confidence sometimes. Regardless of circumstances, a no is a no. Any rejection for sex you’ve had to rationalize?