This week on Summer with Smurfy, we are diving into what it ..

This week on Summer with Smurfy, we are diving into what it means to be a female switch. In BDSM terms, switch means that one can be both submissive and dominant. What I crave is not labels, but intimacy. Knowing someone almost as well as yourself, so that you can betray a whole conversation with just a look across the room. When I want to feel submissive, It always has to be with someone that I trust. I think we all want in some ways, to reclaim the vulnerability and innocence that we slowly lose as we grow. I am dominant most of the time. I don't know a life long single mother who doesn't have some dominance in her haha. My needs for submission usually come out whenever I'm sad or stressed. Although it's still hot any other time as well. Which makes sense, because when you submit to someone, you don't have to make any decisions. You don't have to think, you just do as they say. And at 5'10", when someone makes me feel tiny and shy, I get pretty malleable, :). I have a friend that writes erotic spanking novels. All of her novels are about the man on top and the woman over his knee, so to speak. Her entire fan base is women over 25, usually married. So, I know that submission is prominent and also culturally imprinted among women. The biggest misconception about BDSM is that it hurts. That everyone is into the most extreme pain possible. But, that is certainly not how it really works. BDSM can be incorporated into your daily sex life without even putting that label on it. What do I like when I'm feeling submissive, and what are some things to try on your own partner? 1. When she's walking by and you're sitting in a chair, grab her by the wrist and pull her into your lap for a hug. 2. Fuck her until she gets a tangled fuck knot in the back of her hair. Then wash it and brush it for her. 3. If she's trying to start a new good habit, such as putting her car keys in the same place every time, help her. A few OTK spankings will help condition that new habit when she forgets. (When spanking, the key is not to continually smack in the same spot, alternate cheeks) 4. A hand around her throat, (only press one side at a time, never both) and saying something like, "Whose pussy is this?" Or really anything possessive, is words of affirmation for a submissive. 5. If you saw an article online that you want to share with her, read it out loud to her while she sucks your dick. 6. After you come, let her fall asleep with your cock in her pussy or her mouth. 7. Reward and nurture her just as much as you discipline and desire. 8. When submission is a choice, women have their own lives under control already. So, since you don't need to make big choices for her, make small ones. Tell her what color to paint her nails, or when to not wear panties under her skirt. Have her read your favorite book or listen to a inspiring album, just to share that experience. 9. Say, "Get on your knees and crawl to me." 10. If possible, fill her up with come at every opportunity. Down her throat, in her bottom, dripping out of her pussy. And especially try to do it, whenever she's going to be away from you. Like when she's shopping. Claim your prize! Hello Kitty was a no-brainer photoshoot to highlight this subject. Now, how in the world am I going to keep on leather or latex in this weather whenever I talk about being dominant? Have a good day!