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2023-11-04 12:14:02 +0000 UTC View Post
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instead of catching ghosts, velma’s taking nudes 👻
instead of catching ghosts, velma’s taking nudes 👻
2023-11-03 12:01:04 +0000 UTC View Post
I sometimes get asked questions about poly, what poly is, ho..
I sometimes get asked questions about poly, what poly is, how to be poly or the benefits and drawbacks. I thought I’d do a few posts over the next few days about common questions I get asked! But please feel free to ask any more questions in the comments and I’ll try to work through them all! I’ll start by defining some common aspect of polyamory. Generally nowadays the terms poly or ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy) have become umbrella terms for any of the following styles of relationship: Open Relationship: you have a primary partner and you are allowed sexual connections outside of the main relationship Polyamory: you are open to sexual AND romantic relationships with multiple partners. You are able to experience deep emotional connections with multiple partners. This can be hierarchical (you have a main partner who takes precedence and then secondary relationships, although these are more than sexual and you have emotional connections and even love for them all, without this aspect you’re in an open relationship) or non-hierarchical (all your partners are viewed as equals and you allow each relationship to unfold as it does with no one person holding any power). Polyfidelity: a closed relationship of three or more people Relationship anarchy: you don’t see any difference between friends, lovers, sexual, romantic and platonic relationships. All relationships are possible to you and you don’t like to be defined by traditional structures or rules when it comes to how each should be conducted Solo poly: your main relationship is with yourself and you’re open to relationships with others of varying degrees - but usually excludes monogamous agreements The main thread that runs through all styles of ENM relationships is consent, knowledge and honesty. If, for example, one partner does not know about another that would NOT fall under the poly/ENM umbrella. Under poly and ENM, individuals commit to honesty and communication with any and all partners and so at all times everyone understands fully where they are. This is the briefest overview - and for the sake of brevity enough for one post 😂 But I hope that helps with a few terms and gives a better idea of some of the different styles of ENM and poly relationships. There’s many more, the above are just a few and polyamorous relationships themselves can be arranged in a multitude of ways! Some where metamours (a metamour or “meta” is your lovers other partner) have differing levels of communication and friendships and all forms have their advantages and disadvantages - but that’s for another day ❤️ Over the years I’ve been involved in many different styles of ENM relationships, and it’s an incredible journey! But so is monogamy! And although ENM is becoming more popular, it certainly doesn’t mean people are more content. Whether non-monogamous or monogamous, communication and an open mind will be the make or break zone 🫶 And each style of relationship has incredible gifts in terms of learning and growing. I don’t want (by any means) to tout ENM as any kind of holy grail, what’s right for one time in our life may not be right in another! And monogamy can be an equally exciting journey ❤️ But I see poly gaining momentum (which is a great thing) and I get a lot of questions, so these posts will be more “food for thought” 🍰🥰
2023-11-01 18:36:05 +0000 UTC View PostIs this a better booty shot? 😉
Is this a better booty shot? 😉
2023-11-01 13:52:08 +0000 UTC View Post
I think Velma deserves a massive creampie! 😛
I think Velma deserves a massive creampie! 😛
2023-10-31 13:17:52 +0000 UTC View PostI love cosplay! It’s so fun seeing how different I look 😄
I love cosplay! It’s so fun seeing how different I look 😄
2023-10-30 21:01:02 +0000 UTC View PostYou got my attention… now what? 💜
You got my attention… now what? 💜
2023-10-30 19:47:02 +0000 UTC View PostOh sorry, didn’t see ya there! I was just… stretching 😏
Oh sorry, didn’t see ya there! I was just… stretching 😏
2023-10-30 15:01:03 +0000 UTC View PostTwo lil holes. Which one you going for?
Two lil holes. Which one you going for?
2023-10-30 14:01:03 +0000 UTC View Post
Wet tshirt competition, you in?
Wet tshirt competition, you in?
2023-10-29 21:26:02 +0000 UTC View Post
Velma sending you cheeky pictures whilst she’s on duty 👻
Velma sending you cheeky pictures whilst she’s on duty 👻
2023-10-28 20:13:02 +0000 UTC View PostI was talking about why some birth controls make some people..
I was talking about why some birth controls make some people less inclined to seek sexual encounters recently and how to overcome that, and I was asked if I knew what could be done at menopause to encourage women to enjoy sex again. I’m not menopausal quiiite yet 😉 But I know many women in different stages of life and this is what I know. For a start, it’s entirely possible to love sex as a menopausal woman! Menopause is caused by a decline in sex hormones, marking the end of a woman’s fertile period. Whilst the hormone causing women to feel less likely to initiate sex on birth control is an increase in progesterone, in menopausal women progesterone drops and it’s a steep drop in sex hormones altogether causing a lack of desire. BUT everything else still works like it always has. We’re just a bit less likely (although some still do!) at that time to fantasise erotically or seek sex, because the hormones telling us to do so are less prevalent. Orgasms will still feel good, but it might just take different things to get the fire going. If your partner is menopausal, make time to talk about sex together and in a relaxed and open way. Listen to why she may be concerned about sex without giving any pressure or telling her what it would mean to you (she knows). What would *she* need to enjoy sex? Maybe orgasm takes longer now and a different kind of foreplay is required. Maybe she’s tired and the time of day she enjoys sex has changed. Maybe she’s scared you feel unloved, or upset at how her body has changed. Maybe the pressure to have sex dampens any desire that arises (a chore never feels as good). But sexual good times can be had. She will need to feel understood so you can bond and then work through things together. And I’d say for sure (if it’s an option available to you) a sex/relationship therapist is qualified to ask the right questions and see through the semantics to help you both communicate what you need and would like effectively and deal with the impulsive thoughts (coz ya’ll, sometimes these bigger conversations feel like we just can’t get on the same page!). Communication and a desire and commitment from you both to build a relationship you each love will be the way forward 💙
2023-10-28 17:26:44 +0000 UTC View PostI can’t believe it’s Halloween in a few days!! 👻 It’s gone c..
I can’t believe it’s Halloween in a few days!! 👻 It’s gone crazy fast lately!!
2023-10-28 14:01:02 +0000 UTC View Post
Wanna go ghost hunting with me? ☺️
Wanna go ghost hunting with me? ☺️
2023-10-26 20:12:02 +0000 UTC View Post
I woke up thinking it was Friday!! Oh well haha! Happy Thurs..
I woke up thinking it was Friday!! Oh well haha! Happy Thursday anyway! 🥰
2023-10-26 09:57:11 +0000 UTC View PostVelma needs a head between her legs 🥰 (it’s me, I’m Velma).
Velma needs a head between her legs 🥰 (it’s me, I’m Velma).
2023-10-25 20:01:02 +0000 UTC View PostJust two pervs looking at each other… 🤓
Just two pervs looking at each other… 🤓
2023-10-25 16:00:31 +0000 UTC View Post